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Friday, November 20, 2020

Being a man, without stereotypes



Elianis Cutiño López / Radio Cadena Agramonte.

I am sure that when the celebration of November 19 as International Men's Day began to become popular in the world in 1999, its promoters never thought that the noble cause they started would be overshadowed by sharing the day with Toilet Day.

And although the second "anniversary" has little to do with the jokes that circulate on the networks, the reality is that most of us have participated at some point in the mockery, or we have jokingly disparaged the male representatives, who are not to blame from the established idea that because they were born with genitalia of the so-called stronger sex they have a determined life.

It is enough to get serious and talk while wearing a shirt with friends or acquaintances to realize that beyond appearances, being a man contains too many meanings that on many occasions, rather than legitimizing a supposed generic superiority, subject our colleagues to unimaginable pressure.

In the most extreme cases, and unfortunately the most common, from a young age the masculine features must be well marked: no moderately questionable games, hoarse voice, zero tears, strong character ...

Every “good man” must know how to fix the most diverse devices, be a good sportsman by nature, provide everything necessary for the home, never be afraid, and less in the face of a direct confrontation; And as if that were not enough, you must have sex in early adolescence, be a good lover, romantic - but not excessively -, put a heavy hand on your partner even if they call you macho, and move forward without thinking twice if, by chance, some woman comes on to him.

A man in every sense of the word must, without hesitation, always pay the bills, carry large pesos, like alcohol and above all, be heterosexual, because apparently, when the preference is not the most common, even if they comply with all the above "requirements", you lose the greatest dose of manhood.

And then I, as a woman, tell myself over and over again that I do not want to continue living in a world where all the nuances are so defined, so gray, so imposed, and they do so much damage.

I admire all those representatives of the male sex who, beyond a stereotype, have all the lights and shadows of full human beings, are proud of it, and fight for a more equitable and inclusive world.

What I am sure of is that this November 19 I plan to celebrate them, those they love, those who believe, those who sacrifice, those who cheer, those who flatter, those who put the drops of color so that we forget about the mockery of the toilets and see only them, in all the true extension of the word